My dad who died 4 years ago was an OBGYN. He took in a young OBGYN and ended up selling his practice to him. He treated him like a son. Kevin, the young OBGYN and I were close friends. We were very similar in thoughts and feelings regarding doctors and what they should or should not do in their medical practice. We even made fun of another doctor that sold knockoff Louis Vuitton bags in his office. In the dream, we were at dinner. It was dad and my mom and me with my brothers and Kevin. My dad was sad. Everyone kept asking why. He kept saying that we should know. Each one would ask if it was us. And when we asked he would say no. Kevin never asked. We keyed urging him to. He wouldn’t. It got uncomfortable. We were mad he wouldn’t do it. After dinner was over as we were leaving, I was crying because my dad was so sad. It was like I knew he was leaving to go back to heaven. I think. Or that I wouldn’t see him for a long time. I wanted to tell Kevin off, but my dad stopped me. He said that if he wanted to be something he wasn’t it was his choice. I argued and said but that’s not fair. Dad said it was. He said we have to continue to love, always respect but from afar. That is what was hurting him. To not be able to love him up close. I asked him if he loved me up close. He said he did and always will. And to always be strong and not lose sight of what I stand for and what I believe in. I hugged him so hard. Told him I loved him. By brothers and Kevin hugged him too. He and my mom walked away. I woke up sobbing and my pillow was soaked. I’m crying writing this.
Dreams about deceased loved ones can carry a lot of emotional weight and may reflect your longing to connect with your father or process your grief. In this dream, the presence of your dad as an OBGYN may symbolize his role as a caregiver and nurturer in your life. His relationship with Kevin, the young OBGYN, could represent a sense of mentorship and passing down knowledge or legacy.
The dinner scene where your dad is sad and everyone is trying to figure out why may represent unresolved emotions or issues within your family dynamic or personal life. Kevin's reluctance to question your dad's sadness could suggest a hesitation to confront difficult emotions or truths.
Your desire to tell Kevin off but being stopped by your dad may symbolize a struggle between expressing your feelings openly and maintaining respect for others' choices or boundaries. Your dad's advice to love and respect from afar may indicate a need to create healthy emotional boundaries and accept situations that are beyond your control.
The intense emotions of saying goodbye to your dad in the dream and waking up sobbing suggest a deep longing for connection and closure. Your father's reassurance of his love for you and encouragement to stay true to your beliefs could be a comforting message from your subconscious, reminding you of the values and strength you hold dear.
Overall, this dream may be urging you to process your grief, find ways to honor your father's memory, and navigate complex emotions within relationships with compassion and integrity. It could also be a subconscious prompt to cherish the time you have with loved ones and hold onto the values that guide you in life.